A few years back when I was working as a teacher in a Montessori school in the US, I was closely involved in this program called "Beyond the Walls". It was basically directed at giving the kids a chance to get out in the open and discover new possibilities on their own. I had never seen those kids as happy as they used to be for this particular class. The fresh air outside and the power to create and do something new and exciting used to bring out the best in all the kids.
I delivered my princess a little over 3 months back. I was back from the hospital on the third day. Postpartum depression hovered over me. I was just getting through each day, somehow managing with 2 kids. Both of who wanted my full attention. After a while I realized that there was no time for myself. And that is a bad thing. One needs the ME time. Time beyond just looking after home and husband and kids.
The ME time could be anything. From taking a walk by the sea to reading a book. From cooking your favorite dish to meeting a friend for coffee. But one deserves it. It nourishes you. It's like sunshine. You bloom.
Another very important aspect of the ME time is the time spent with your husband. Not just as a mother of his kids but as his wife. The long drives should not stop because now you're parents. The dinners and the late night coffees could still continue. Yes, there are adjustments to be made once you become parents but that does not mean you stop being two individuals in love. The long drives could be a little short and the dinners could just mean grabbing a quick bite at your favorite hangout. But this is what keeps the spirit of marriage alive. The love alive.
It's not just the kids who need to see the beautiful sunshine and glittering stars. Even we need to get "Beyond the Walls".
I delivered my princess a little over 3 months back. I was back from the hospital on the third day. Postpartum depression hovered over me. I was just getting through each day, somehow managing with 2 kids. Both of who wanted my full attention. After a while I realized that there was no time for myself. And that is a bad thing. One needs the ME time. Time beyond just looking after home and husband and kids.
The ME time could be anything. From taking a walk by the sea to reading a book. From cooking your favorite dish to meeting a friend for coffee. But one deserves it. It nourishes you. It's like sunshine. You bloom.
Another very important aspect of the ME time is the time spent with your husband. Not just as a mother of his kids but as his wife. The long drives should not stop because now you're parents. The dinners and the late night coffees could still continue. Yes, there are adjustments to be made once you become parents but that does not mean you stop being two individuals in love. The long drives could be a little short and the dinners could just mean grabbing a quick bite at your favorite hangout. But this is what keeps the spirit of marriage alive. The love alive.
It's not just the kids who need to see the beautiful sunshine and glittering stars. Even we need to get "Beyond the Walls".
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